I try to be positive but we all know we fight the demons in our heads. Mine have been filling me with thoughts of failure and hopelessness these days.
I decided to write down some of the negative self thoughts, hoping that if I saw them written down, I’d realize how ridiculous they all were. So here goes. This is what is secretly going through my head. (And yes I know the sleeve doesn’t “stop working”).
My Negative Self-Thoughts
“I will never lose any more weight. I will be stuck here forever. What’s more, it’s my 6 month mark and we all know the sleeve stops working at 6 months and by golly it has! I will be fat forever because I am a loser. I will forever be changing my calories up and down, and cycling my carbs up and down and none of it will ever work because I’m just a fatty fatty fat fat. And I will stay that way forever.
Everyone else succeeds but I will fail. Just as I have in the past. I don’t know why it’s stopped working but I’m stuck at the same weight for 10 days at a time and then I only lose .5 a pound. Maybe. At this rate, it will take me a year to lose the remaining 20 lbs and I will just KILL something by then. I don’t know what to do and I feel helpless and crazy and I know I’m crazy and I’m driving everyone else around me crazy and I still can’t stop. And that’s how I know I’m both failing AND crazy!
I will never be a healthy size 8. I will stay stuck at this weight and people will tell me I must be happy because I’m so much better off than before but I won’t be happy. Because I will have failed failed failed.
I will be the one whose body has decided to stop at some unhealthy fat weight. And then I will be so frustrated that I will eat too much and put back on even what I lost and so what’s the point of it all?? I used to only be fat. Now I’m fat and crazy. And failing.
No one else is failing. Only me. Everyone else is dropping pounds like flies. But not me. And I can’t even lose at 700-900 calories so if I eat more then I will get fatter. So for the rest of my life, I will be eating tiny quantities and still not losing weight. ”
The End. For now.
Phew. I feel a bit better. I know it’s not rational. But who said this process would be rational? There’s nothing rational about eating so little and still not losing because your body..(insert something something I don’t always understand here).
It’s not rational, it’s an emotional journey. And sometimes it’s scary and I guess that’s okay.